MERRY CHRISTMAS / MOM PAM
WANTED TO LET U KNOW THAT WE STILL HAVE U WITH US ON THE HOLIDAYS IN OUR HEARTS AND WITH OUR MEMORIES. I'M GETTING READY TO GO TO BED, I STAYED UP SO I COULD TELL YOU I LOVE YOU. THANK YOU FOR ALL THE GOOD TIMES AND THE BAD THAT YOU LEFT FOR ME TO HAVE SO I WOULD HAVE ALOT TO THINK ABOUT WHEN I NEED TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE STILL WITH ME. I KNOW YAL ARE HAVING A GREAT CELEBRATION AND THAT YOU ARE THE LEAD SINGER. I MISS YOU EVERYDAY. TAKE CARE OF US DOWN HERE, WE'RE BATTLING THE DEVIL CONSTANTLY. TALK TO YOU SOON! LUV 4-EVA Close
Angel Tree / Mona Thornhill
Jaime', What a glorious day for your Angel Tree delivery. The weathermen had said that it would rain all day today. But as usual, God came through. The sun is now shining. I'm sure there were a few doubts about how your Angel Tree gifts and Bibles would be delivered to the less fortunate in the rain. Thank you God! I know that you are so very proud of what is being done in your memory. Thank you also for the life that you led and set an example for so many. So many people that did not have the pleasure of knowing you, have said that you must have been an extraordinary person. And that, you were. We talk of you often. Always in our thoughts. Love, Mona Close
Morning,Jaime', I wanted to let you know how very much you are missed. I was watching an old home movie the other night and you were singing at Bubba's wedding and all I could do was cry. You were such a sweet child who had so much talent. My mom and sister were also there and it made me hurt to see all of you again. I miss all of you so much and you left us way too soon.But at least we have all the memories. It still hurts way too much as we go into this holiday season. I love you. Aunt M
Hey,J'me -AnnaLee has had a rough time this week And she wants her Na-Na .Well,anyway Tues.she fell off her swing set and hit the side of her head it wasn't bad then yesterday she was standing on the back of my chair I wasn't aware of it and I got up to wait on a customer and she fell backwards and hit her head on the corner of the ice-cream machine as soon as we got in the car she started crying for you I can't begin to tell you how much we miss you and how cheated I feel for AnnaLee I know God has a plan but it still hurts.We are very blessed as your Mom said and u were right she is strong and she's the strongest woman I know. I love you too-too much and very much!!!!!!!WEE-WEE (AnnaLee had to have 3 stitches and she was very brave and didn't even cry)!
Love you / Mom
Hey Girlie, Just wanted to say I love you and miss you much...I went to the Basketball game last night and saw your shadow box it looks great. Carlie still wears your sweat band with the heart and your number! I enjoyed it, it wasn't bad. Your class is away now and I miss them. It is different there now. Lil Ron is playing basketball now. He did well last night! I feel like I'm getting alittle down today, I guess thats why I'm writing you. Well Mom loves you very much not any less since Oct 9, 2004... I thank God every morning for you and the 16 years we had you, the thoughtful daughter I had, the relationship we had, everything you did here on earth. I thank Jesus for all of it!! Thank you for blessing me with a beautiful family. Even when I feel very sorry for myself I thank Him for all of my Blessings. I Love you as AnnaLee and I put it up to the sky!! Mom Close
Well,Jaime', here we go again with another holiday without you.I just read the poem your mom put on here that describes her "normal" life without you. My heart just breaks because your parents do make it look like they are adjusting and then when I read something like this, you realize what a front they put on! But of course they want us to think otherwise. Everyday that goes by without you here is so hard for all your family. Matt was home recently and we talked about you a lot.You are on my mind and in my heart always. Today, on this day of thanks, I'll be thanking God for the 16 years we had with you and remembering all the good times.Love forever, Aunt Marsha
Poem for greiving parents / Robin Sweatman Read >>
Poem for greiving parents / Robin Sweatman
While visiting a Greiving Parents Web site I found this letter a mother wrote. I thought it described my life perfectly. With trying to find our new normal life.
It is amazing what can become "normal" to us!
Normal for me is trying to decide what to take to the cemetary for Christmas, birthday,Valentine's day, and Easter.
Normal is also not hardly being able to bare the thought of Jesus dying on the cross because of what it did to his mother.
Normal is that extra chocolate Easter bunny sitting on the counter because you always get your children a choclate bunny, and this year you still bought one for the one who is not here.
Normal is sitting at the computer crying, sharing how you feel with chat buddies who have also lost a child.
Normal is feeling like you know how to act and are more comfortable with a funeral and being at the cemetery were my son is buried, than a wedding or a birthday party. Yet, feeling a stab of pain in your heart when you smell the flowers, see that casket, and all the crying people.
Normal is feeling like you can't sit another minute without getting up and screaming cause you just don't like to sit through church anymore. And yet feeling like you have more faith and belief in God than you ever have had before.
Normal is going to bed feeling like your kids who are alive got cheated out of happy cheerful parents and instead they are stuck with sober, cautious people.
Normal is having tears waiting behind every smile when you realize someone important is missing from all the important events in your families' life.
Normal is not sleeping very well because a thousand 'what if's' and 'why didn't I's' go through your head constantly.
Normal is having the TV on the minute I wake up and the last thing on before I go to sleep at night,the need for noise because the silence is deafening.
Normal is every happy event in my life always being backed up with sadness lurking close behind because of the hole in my heart. Normal is telling the story of Bobby's death as if it were an everyday common place activity and then gasping in horror at how awful it sounds. And yet realizing it has become part of our normal.
Normal is each year coming up with the difficult task of how to honor your child's memory and their birthday and survive those days. And trying to find the balloon or flag that fits the occasion. Happy Birthday? Not really.
Normal is my heart warming and yet sinking at the sight of that ugly plant in the front flower bed and thinking how Bobby liked it and how much I didn't.
Normal is being impatient with everything, except someone stricken with grief over the loss of their child.
Normal is feeling a common bond with friends in England, Australia, Netherlands, Canada, and all over the USA, but yet never having met any of them face to face.
Normal is a new friendship with another grieving mother and meeting for coffee and talkingand crying together over our children and our new lives.And worrying together over our living children.
Normal is being too tired to care if you paid the bills, cleaned house or did laundry or if there is any food in the house.
Normal is wondering this time whether you are going to say you have 3 or 4 children because you will never see this person again and it is not worth explaining that one of them is in heaven. And yet when you say only 3 to avoid that problem you feel horrible as if you have betrayed that child.
And last of all normal is hiding all the things that have become normal for you to feel, so that everyone around you will think that you are "normal".
My Bobby has been gone since May 2, 2001. These things are what is 'normal' for me now.
HAPPY THANKSGIVING JAIME / Carol Kiparisus (Family friend )Read >>
HAPPY THANKSGIVING JAIME / Carol Kiparisus (Family friend )
Hi Jaime, wanted to tell you HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! Another year is soon coming to an end...Your family will always love you and as each day passes they will miss you more!!! I've got to admit time does help in a different way but Jesus is the only one that gets us through each day for the rest of our lives!!! The day will come that we will all be together again and what a day that will be!!! When you see Johnny please let him know how very much I love him, thank you... I know you are so proud of your Mom, she has and continues to reach out to other young people...Hopefully we can make a difference...Again, have a Heavenly Thanksgiving!!! Love and Hugs, Robin, Ron and Family...HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! CAROL Close
REMEMBERING THE GOOD TIMES / Suzie Cue
HEY, I KNOW ITS BEEN AWHILE. I MISS U AND HOPE THAT U CAN KNOW THIS IN HEAVEN. I TRY TO FIGURE THINGS OUT BUT DON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK , U KNOW I;M NOT GOOD AT RIDDLES. I HOPE WHATEVER IT IS, ITS NOT A TRAGEDY CUZ I CAN'T GO THRU ANOTHER RIGHT NOW. BUT I DO LOVE BEING ABLE TO SEE U. THE SIGN IS ALSO AWESOME. I KNOW THERE ARE ALOT WHO DON'T BELIEVE BUT WE DO AND WE HAVE THAT RIGHT. I GET SOME FUNNY LOOKS BUT I GOT THOSE ALL THE TIME BEFORE U HAD TO LEAVE US. I HAVE TO BELIEVE THAT USTILL HAVE A CONNECTION TO US AND THATWE CAN HAVE SOME SORT OF TOGETHERNESS. U HAVE TO MISS US AS MUCH AS WE MISS U AND I KNOW HOW LOVING OUR GOD IS THAT HE LET'S HIS ANGELS FIND A WAY TO BE NEAR US WHETHER IT'S DREAMS OR SIGNS ON CARS OR FURNITURE, PLEASE DON'T STOP. I LUV AND MISS U ALOT. TAKE CARE AND FEEL MY HUG AROUND U, I;M SENDING IT EXPRESS MAIL. TIL I SEE U AGAIN. Close
A Purse named after Jaime' on the web / Robin Read >>
A Purse named after Jaime' on the web / Robin
Melody Goggin made a purse and thought of Jaime' and asked if it would be ok to name it after her. Thanks so much Melody!! One more way to keep her memory alive... To purchase one you may visit this web site http://www.yabblebabble.com/items_Jaime_1233.htm Thanks so very much!! Robin Close
Bless you Robin / Peggy (mom and aunts friend )Read >>
Bless you Robin / Peggy (mom and aunts friend )
Robin, I just read the letter you wrote to jaime, and it was absolutely beautiful, and heart wrenching at the same time... I know there are people that read your letters and are ministered to so very much, I won' t even begin to say I know how you feel, but when I read your letters, its like for just a moment I feel your intense pain, and all I can do is cry. I will pray for you and your family till the day I die......You and Ron, and little Ron hold on It can't be much longer before Jesus comes !! Keep on doing what you are doing, God has given you a special gift, I believe you will lead many to Christ, because you are real, there are so many fakes....thats why when I read your stuff it is so refreshing! God bless you Close
Julie reminded me of some sweet memories. I sure miss praticing your music. There are so many things I miss doing with you. They do make me smile, cry and long for the good times. But at least we made the most of our time together. And because of our happy times I am able to live and try and find a new normal. Dad and I are having a hard time finding where we stand in life and what can make us a little happy. I still cannot understand how our lives have changed so very much. Alot of MOMS told me that greiving drains you and I do beleive that. Putting on a smile daily is exhausting. But having a daughter like you for 16 years is worth all the pain I have. I wouldn't trade my 16 years with you for no pain at all. To never have loved you would have been unthinkable. But it is so difficult to be in the middle of trying to hold on to our old life and starting a new one. Our old life is over. It is too painful to be around it. Veiwing the past is like putting a knife thru our hearts. I know people have told us we have to accept change but I have accpeted all I'm going to. Whatever it takes to live somewhat a normal life from here on out is all I can ask for. No one knows what it is like unless they have lost a child. After you died Dad and I have learned so many things good and bad. Some disappointments. I am so thankful for those who have learned to understand your Dad and I and have stood by us daily. But through it we have learned that we have each other and I beleive that is one thing you would be so very proud of. Your song you used to sing just came on the radio "Jesus will still be there. " Plans fail, things change, this song says it all. When it looks like you have lost it all. Thank you for reminding me of my strength that would get me thru this. It is so unbeleivable the wisdom you had like you knew you weren't going to be here long.
I hope you enjoyed your balloon Memorial. It was so beautiful...I am so appreciative to all that came. Logan said we need to do that again. And those that couldn't I'm sure you were in their thoughts. Besty, Richard, & Lindsey also called on the 9th. It was so good to hear from them.
Your brother is getting to be something. Help. I love him so much. He is looking so much like you. You would be very proud of him. I know he misses you. Tiff spent some time with him the other weekend. Him and AnnaLee. You owe her in so many ways. She has tried to comfort us and I know it is hard on her but she is really trying. She is following ya'lls dream about college and I know it is hard on her. Send her a sign that you are with her. I hate this I hate the fact that we are writing on a website when we should be emailing you at college! GOD HELP ME...Now you can understand why I get mad.
Well I guess you have heard from me long enough you would be saying "that's enough" or "quit the pity party". This helps Mom vent some. You aren't here to talk to so I have to write you. Happy Halloween....Tell God to send us a God Wink!! I never know when I may get on here but always know you are in my thoughts and my heart. Love, MOM
You are wonderful! / Julie Cross Holladay (Long time friend of the family )
Jaime', I know I wasn't a big part of your life during your teenage years and for good reason...You were a very busy girl! And I wouldn't have had it any other way because I am so proud of all your accomplishments and the fact that you touched so many lives in such a short period of time. I watched you grow into a beautiful young woman throughout the years at Babe's Bar-B-Que, and I will cherish those memories forever. I remember it like it was yesterday, you, me, Sharon, and Morgan always in competition to see who could get the most tips. And for the majority of the time, you always won:) LOL! I loved how your mom would practice your songs with you behind the buffet when we were slow. The two of you were magical, a bond like no other.
Anyway, I wish so much that I could take your families pain away. I love them so much and nothing will ever be the same again. My pain for them goes so deep that I think about them everyday. Mr Alan has always been my 2nd Dad and your mother has always been the sister I never had and I miss them so much. Oh Jaime', I wish you were here to take ALL the pain away. I know everyone says that time will heal our pain but I don't know if that's exactly true. Because everyday that I think of you and your family, it all comes rushing back as if you left us all yesterday. It hurts just as much as it did 2 years ago. Although I can't wait to see you again one day, I'm trying to live life as you would have wanted all of us to live, "don't count your days, make your days count." You were so wise beyond your years and you've taught me so much. I love you J'me! Keep sending your love to all of us especially the wonderful family you left behind. Close
Hey,everyone,I wanted to let ya'll know the first balloon was found in the First Baptist Church parking lot in Eutawville. The lady that found it e-mailed me to let me know. I don't want to say her name without her permission but Robin is trying to find out which balloon it was. Thank you so much to the lady that found it and let us know. Hopefully more people will find them and tell us! Marsha
To My Sweet Jaime / Carol Kiparisus (Friend of Moms )Read >>
To My Sweet Jaime / Carol Kiparisus (Friend of Moms )
TO MY SWEET JAIME
Today my child, is the day you went away from this earth My heart will always remember the pain Because you took a part of it with you
The pain is still so raw and deep and I don't sleep And I will continue to weep I miss you more as the days pass and still ask "why."
I pray that one day some joy will return and I believe it will I will wait on the Lord because he is in control He will help me heal my heart, this hole
This day is two years since I've seen your face Those beautiful brown eyes and beautiful smile Just to be able to hold you for awhile
Other Moms say It gets easier in time But right now I'm behind and waiting on my better days I can't imagine that day but just maybe they're right I'll keep waiting and continue to pray
Only the Lord can heal my pain Just hope it will be soon so I won't go insane I know a Mom that feels as I do And she is crazy so I guess I will be too
She doesn't know my pain but does know pain from loss of a child Each loss has different meanings to each individual So very precious and special
And you my dear one I will always keep you alive Because you're right here in my heart I'll love you always and forever, this I'll always say To My Sweet Jaime
Dedicated to Robin October 9th, 2006 Your Friend Always, Carol
2 YEARS TODAY / ME
WELL HERE I GO AGAIN, COMMUNICATING TO YOU THE BEST WAY WE CAN THESE DAYS. I KNOW EVERYTHING IS GREAT WHERE U ARE HOW COULD IT NOT BEING WITH GOD AND HIS BEAUTIFUL HOME BUT THINGS DOWN HERE ARE DREARY AND I STILL CAN'T BELIEVE THAT THIS HAPPENED TO US 2 YEARS AGO. I REMEMBER EVERYTHING FROM THE CALL TO THE TRIP TO THE ACCIDENT TO THE HOSPITAL TO WHO WAS THERE, AND THEN THOSE AWFUL WORDS THAT U WERE GONE, HOW COULD THEY SAY THAT, IT WASN'T TRUE HOW COULD THEY LIE LIKE THAT, WHAT A CRUEL JOKE TO PLAY ON US BY PEOPLE THAT DIDN'T KNOW WHAT EFFECT IT WOULD HAVE ON OUR LIVES, THEY JUST WORKED THERE AFTER ALL, THEY COULDN'T BE SAYING THAT YOU WOULDN'T BE ON EARTH WITH US ANYMORE, I WAS SO IN SHOCK AND SO MAD AT EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY. WELL IT WAS TRUE AND MY WORSE THOUGHTS WERE REAL. I MUST SAY THAT NOTHING HAS AFFECTED MY LIFE AS MUCH AS YOUR PASSING DID. SOME DAYS ARE GOOD AND WE GO ON AND ACT NORMAL BUT THOSE DAYS THAT REALITY SETS IN AGAIN ARE A BUMMER AND THE HURT IS THERE JUST AS IT WAS THAT NIGHT ON OCTOBER 9TH 2004. MY WHOLE LIFE AND HOME CHANGED. I DON'T REALLY TELL ANYONE MY FEELINGS, I DON'T NEED TO WELL MAYBE SOMETIMES WOULD BE GOOD BUT I REALLY DON'T HAVE ANYONE THAT UNDERSTANDS ME OR WHY I FEEL THE WAY I DO, AND I REALLY DON'T WANT TO HEAT THEM SAY YOU'RE BETTER OFF WHERE YOU ARE. MAYBE YOU ARE BUT THERE WAS SO MUCH TO DO HERE WITH US. I KNOW IKNOW I;M BEING SELFISH BUT DARN IT IT HURTS TO SEE ALL THE PAIN IN PEOPLE'S EYES THAT I LOVE AND THIS CRUSHING PAIN IN MY CHEST. I FIX EVERYTHING FOR THE PEOPLE I CARE ABOUT, BUT GOD SHOWED ME I WASN'T IN CONTROL OF ANYTHING, BUT WHY SUCH A HARD SLAP IN THE FACE. I DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO FIX EVEN A LITTLE PART OF THIS AND ITS ALL BECAUSE IT CAN'T BE FIXED. WHAT FINALITY, IT WON'T BE DIFFERENT 10 MINUTES FROM NOW OR 10 YEARS FROM NOW. IT'S FUNNY HOW I THINK SOMETIMES THAT ALL THIS DIDN'T HAPPENEN TO US BUT HEY GUESS WHAT IT DID. WELL THANK YOU FOR LISTENING, I'M THRU WITH MY PITY PARTY FOR NOW, THERE WILL BE MORE FOR LATER. I WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOU CLOSE TO ME AND LOOK FOR YOU IN MY DREAMS, MY HOME, WHATEVER MESSAGE YOU HAVE I WILL BE PAYING ATTENTION, AND A LITTLE COMFORT WOULDN'T HURT EITHER. I'M KEEPING MY FAITH AND I LOVE U VERY MUCH. I KNOW MY LIFE WON'T EVER BE THE SAME BUT YOU WAS A BIG PART OF IT FOR A LONG TIME AND IT WAS FUN AND INTERESTING. TAKE CARE AND I WILL TALK TO YOU SOON. Close
Hey,sweety yesterday was a blessing it hurts everyday not having you in my life but I deal with it the best way I know how too and with God's help. The Cross in the pine tree let me know Jesus was there with us as he is always and I do Bless his name-I will see u again!!!!!!! I love you,Wee-Wee
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